well when i was growing up my mom(single mother of 2) wanted me to learn how to defend myself so she made take a self defense class at the Y. The only thing they had available was womens self defense. All through junior high, when someone would pick on me... i'd yell at them "Give that back!", "Thats not your purse!", and kick them in the nuts. i guess it was effective though, i never lost a fight.
but, yeah i grew up very poor, hell... if i wouldn't have been born a boy i wouldn't have had anything to play with. lol