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thelastmagician aka trent is a 19.32 year old boy, has been a member since June 6, 2008, has scored 148 submissions, giving an average score of 4.66.
  Aug 16 '09 by thelastmagician        41 Comments        Watch this      Share:  Share on facebook    Share on delicious    Share on digg    Share on MySpace    Tweet this    Stumble this    Share this on Kaboodle   
Gah, i feel depressed.
I'm 19 years old and i've never been kissed, or even on a date wit a girl. I know i'm not gay, but love has just really never been a big thing in my life....but now i'm starting to with i had tried to go out with someone in high school.

thing is, i have a lot of disorders. i mean, like, mental problems.
to be specific, here's the big four:
tourette's syndrome
ocd
adhd (major)
asperger's syndrome (maybe, i've seen the symptoms and my neurologist hinted that i might have it, but never been tested for it, so i can't really say...)

These things put me at a big social disadvantage. at the few parties i've gone to, i don't have a good time, i end up walking around by myself and leaving about an hour after i go, because i'm bored and don't think anyone will want to talk to me anyways. in other words? I'm antisocial. which might have something to do with the asperger's, idk.

so on top of these disorders, i guess i have a self esteem problem? when i was a little kid my adhd was really REALLY bad, and i was so hyper and obnoxious that everyone started to hate me. i guess the feelings of guilt i've had since then have followed me throughout my life, causing me to become antisocial because i think that i'm weird and no one will like me...

aaah, i'm rambling. the point is, because of these things i've never had a girlfriend, never been kissed and yes, still a virgin.
i'm really sad now, so, yeah....
could anyone out there help me?

boysbeambitious
boysbeambitious on Aug 16 '09 at 11:51pm
Don't worry, man. You have many years ahead of you. Good luck.
xiv
   xiv on Aug 16 '09 at 11:51pm
thelastmagician
thelastmagician on Aug 16 '09 at 11:52pm
.....
uh, what?
robroy05
robroy05 on Aug 16 '09 at 11:53pm
all I can say is man that as long as you're right with you first, the other stuff should follow. take care of you.
SuperRyan
SuperRyan on Aug 16 '09 at 11:54pm
I'm not going to kiss you or have sex with you, but Pris is right.

Don't worry.
PuterBoy
PuterBoy on Aug 16 '09 at 11:55pm
just try to be more near girls. or look them in the eyes when you talk to them. I find that i can get pretty far with a girl if I look into their eyes or like talk to them but close up cause they start smiling a lot. when you see that smile you know you're in.
PuterBoy
PuterBoy on Aug 16 '09 at 11:55pm
also this blog definitely is deficient in gog
thelastmagician
thelastmagician on Aug 16 '09 at 11:56pm
thanks...that makes sense.
but what the hell is gog?
PuterBoy
PuterBoy on Aug 16 '09 at 11:58pm
gog is what is needed
thelastmagician
thelastmagician on Aug 16 '09 at 11:59pm
lol, okay, uh...
O_0
kidaro
kidaro on Aug 17 '09 at 12:00am
dude, man up and take the initiative. That's all they really want anyway. Go get 'em!

It's better to be obnoxious than boring, trust me.

Obnoxious guys get laid all the time. Boring guys? Only if they are pretty and rich.
Chengui
   Chengui on Aug 17 '09 at 12:01am
If you become an alumni here you get loads of chicks. So submit more!
SuperRyan
SuperRyan on Aug 17 '09 at 12:01am
Gog: goggle it
robroy05
robroy05 on Aug 17 '09 at 12:02am
Speaking of becoming alumni here, your designs are very good, I think. more please.
Edamame Obake
Edamame Obake on Aug 17 '09 at 12:02am
You're putting the carriage before the horse. kissing isn't the important part, rather its relating with someone you like.
kidaro
kidaro on Aug 17 '09 at 12:02am
Initiative, take it.
PuterBoy
PuterBoy on Aug 17 '09 at 12:02am
just bang a fat chick if you really don't care.


they bang anyone.
randyotter3000
   randyotter3000 on Aug 17 '09 at 12:03am
If you become an alumni here you get loads of chicks. So submit more!

thats where I was going wrong :(
WarDrobeInSpareOom
WarDrobeInSpareOom on Aug 17 '09 at 12:04am
I had my first kiss at 21. It was gross.

I had my first good kiss at 22.
WarDrobeInSpareOom
WarDrobeInSpareOom on Aug 17 '09 at 12:06am
Also, I think asperger's is a made-up disease.
thelastmagician
thelastmagician on Aug 17 '09 at 12:06am
uh, no, it's not
Jellyes
Jellyes on Aug 17 '09 at 12:07am
kissing isn't anything unless it's with someone meaningful to you! and lots of people haven't found a connection with anyone by the time they're 19. i didn't connect with anyone (aka: didnt date) in high school, but in the past year that i've been out of high school, ive liked several girls. kissed a few, too!
just be yourself and some fine young lady will fall for ya.
also, put yourself out there. do things that are social, and you'll meet more people. the more people you meet, the greater your chances of finding someone awesome.
thelastmagician
thelastmagician on Aug 17 '09 at 12:08am
that's....
actually a good idea.
Stoma
Stoma on Aug 17 '09 at 12:09am
SuperRyan on Aug 17 '09 at 12:01am
Gog: goggle it


Good Old Games
Gynecologic Oncology Group
The tradition of Gog and Magog begins in the Bible

Somehow, I feel you are leading us astray
xiv
   xiv on Aug 17 '09 at 12:15am
thelastmagician
thelastmagician on Aug 17 '09 at 12:20am
i think i just learned what GOG is.
:)
Bio-bot 9000
Bio-bot 9000 on Aug 17 '09 at 12:39am
hang in there, dude.

I had a bad stutter all through high school. I had really bad self esteem issues from not being able to express myself, or fear of sounding dumb. I was lonely and isolated. Speech therapy didn't help. I didn't go to many parties, and wasn't very popular. There were a lot of low years, but gradually things got a little bit better. my self esteem improved a bit, my stutter got better (although it still pops up from time to time), but I still often feel awkward at social situations, and do a lot of walking home by myself late at night. I didnt kiss anyone until college.

Try to be active in things. Keep drawing and animating. DO what you love to do. Join a club or organization, or a sports team to meet people. Try to find ways to get yourself into situations you enjoy, and always try to stay positive. Optimism may be hard, but it's kept me going through some bad times.

I wish you well.
thelastmagician
thelastmagician on Aug 17 '09 at 12:42am
thank you, all of you, you've been a real help.
MoniqueH
MoniqueH on Aug 17 '09 at 12:57am
I'm like the female version of you.
thelastmagician
thelastmagician on Aug 17 '09 at 12:59am
really?
sonmi
   sonmi on Aug 17 '09 at 12:59am
GOOD RUCK
MoniqueH
MoniqueH on Aug 17 '09 at 1:02am
Pretty much.
MoniqueH
MoniqueH on Aug 17 '09 at 1:03am
Ok, not the never been kissed part, but most of the other stuff.
Kerrn
Kerrn on Aug 17 '09 at 1:08am
start collecting cats.

-k.
littlem
littlem on Aug 17 '09 at 1:20am
i think that never having been kissed or devirginized, at your age, is nothing to be ashamed of.

i think that maybe parties aren't the right setting for you, if they make you feel uncomfortable.

there are other ways of meeting girls. youjust need to figure out how you're going to psyche up your nuts enough so you can approach people.

have you spoken with an expert on your disorders? when was the last time you did? do they have any advice on this matter? i hope you're not embarrassed to ask. it would only be of great benefit for you.

i'm sorry that you had some rough experiences with your behavior. sometimes people just don't understand.

may i suggest doing some research at the local library?

i don't know what else to say besides that i feel like you will be succesful if you just take a few risks here and there.

good luck!
mike bautista
mike bautista on Aug 17 '09 at 1:26am
Don't worry, man. I haven't kissed a girl since I was three.
And I have an excuse for being a virgin. It's called celibacy, yo. And its legit.

Though I have no problems socializing with girls. You just gotta go out and be cool. Everyday's a new day.
goldensara
goldensara on Aug 17 '09 at 1:53am
don't sweat it. society puts such an emphasis on sex sex sex and being in relationships from an early age that people start thinking they're weird if they're not dating by the 5th grade, LOL. But all of that is just bullshit.

There's nothing wrong with not having kissed a girl or still being single. These things don't define you, I bet you're an awesome person and some lucky girl out there will see that and like you for who you are, awkwardness and all.
Tikimasters
Tikimasters on Aug 17 '09 at 4:48am
Your situation is much more prominent that what everyone makes it out to be. Try to work on the social aspects that are holding you back. That's the only way you'll open up. You're still young so you've got time on your side. Good luck!
Goldendust
Goldendust on Aug 17 '09 at 4:59am
One of my really good guy friends has asperger's, he is a cool guy, and he's been dating a wonderful girl for a couple of years. When I first met him, he was painfully shy, would throw tantrums and could occasionally be violent, as he didn't know how to express himself. But now, you wouldn't even notice- it just took him a while to get comfortable around people. Keep working at it, I'm sure you'll get there soon enough :)
thelastmagician
thelastmagician on Aug 17 '09 at 8:12am
thanks, guys, you are really kind.
ivejustquitsmoking
   ivejustquitsmoking on Aug 17 '09 at 8:21am
wow, you've totally assessed yourself.. great job, that's the first step... try to enjoy

been reading about bipolarity really fascinating
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