so go do something about it...........just talk to people.........and make sure you think about what you're saying...........saying stupid things really irks me because it is so easily avoidable
design a winning shirt, so you'll have $750 dollars and 16 neat shirts (25 if you cash in on the sale) and people will want to be your friend bc you will be sharply dressed and have some money.
plus people usually feel better about themselves if they win something, have some money, and like what they're wearing.
um. look at what you are doing right. there are two sides to everything. and... do something easy that gives you confidence first., and ..um, build up from there
me too. i hate people and they hate me. i'm fine with it but i did wind up on anti-depressants for a few months last year so it's worth doing something to improve the situation.
same boat as steve.
im akward when im around people i dont know,
and i only have about 4 people i consider real friends, which i dont really mind since i'll be going to college next fall, i have so much less crap to put up with like worrying about all the incredibly stupid things my friends are doing or what theyre saying, and i have really protective parents so i cant do much...
find someone who reminds you of yourself, (very important to start) and start talking to them. if the conversation goes well (a.k.a. goes on for more then 15 minuites, without fading out) exchange names, and if it goes on longer bring up some thing you want to do, or go.
I just wish I knew people who liked the same music as me.....I have no one to go to concerts with and I'm not going to go alone so I miss out on all the cool shows
Whatever you do, don't go on anti's, there are many other options.
I too was on anti's (for over a year), and they're only a band-aid solution to a bigger problem. Go join a theatre group, take up a course at a community college, start a sporting team. Do anything that involves interacting in a social environment. If you're not good at something they say you have to practice to get better at it. You're anti-social?.. Socialise more.
Practice makes perfect
I know there are yahoo groups on different kinds of music. you can find one that is on a type of music you like, and start talking to them.
(I was a member of one a few years back, and people would post comments about CD's they liked, ones they were selling, shoes they wanted to go to, shows they were having (if they were a band, etc) , and reviews they found online about different artists.)
it was pretty neat
(mabey I even miss it a bit....)
i took pills for a few years, and I want to add my advice to the rest of this: only take pills in the context of therapy. pills can slow down the meta-freakout, when you get depressed because you're keep being depressed that you're depressed: that sort of thing. they can open up some space where you can make headway in therapy. but on their own, they don't fix a blessed thing.
i think anti-depressants can be helpful to get people out of a hole
but they cant be a crutch
i think therapy is a bigger waste of money than meds
(depending on each person's cirmcumstance)
i dealt with undiagnosed add and depression/anxiety
my parents spent a lot of money for a 6 month solution
therapists were a joke for me, the only thing that i got out of my handful of appointments was how to breathe, which i actually use quite often
i know people that see a shrink every week, theyre no different than they were before , it's not the miracle cure everyone makes it out to be.
i definitely agree with eskimokiss though about activities, if i hadnt gotten into my video classes...id have no social contact or creative outlet, the whole cool people+doing something you enjoy is so satisfying.
sometimes im antisocial, but i dont hate myself.
you should be very proud of your self, looks like you are a great artist over there!
maybe draw or paint, and see what great things you can do.
also, photography is a good social activity, just go around taking photos of people, it makes you interact. (and girls like guys with cameras)
If you think people hate you, it's usually never true. One time last year I thought for sure EVERYONE I knew hated me, but I had a few friends who still stood up for me and gave other friends a good asswhooping. And usually, just being nice works well. People love someone who's nice, maybe not even funny, but nice. It's a hell of a lot of effort being nice, but it more than compensates in the end.
Anti-social means, essentially, anti-people and society, it's very different from being afraid of social interactions. People with anti-social personality disorder are also known as sociopaths, and may kill people or commit crimes because they simply cannot empathize with the people they're hurting. I assume you're not talking about being a sociopath, but rather that you have difficulties socializing.
Anyway, I think most people your age go through a thing like that; I know I did, and in a way still do. But it doesn't bother me because the friends I have are supportive. The best advice I can give you now is to not worry about it and keep a positive attitude that things will improve for you. Now, if for some reason you feel that you have major depression, chances are you actually don't, so don't get into that mindset because it could turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy...
If it's /really/ awful for you, though, like you're extremely afraid of going out and talking to or meeting new people, you may have social phobia, or perhaps something worse, but that's doubtful.
But chances are you're normal, really. There is some great advice in this thread from other users, so please read it if you're feeling down :o)
I study psychology, so if you want to chat sometime, my contact info is in my profile.
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