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Feb 02 '11 by mezo
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Real life is a dick.

Let's say you have a best friend of life. Let's say you also have a worst enemy of life who you got into a fist fight with. Let's say you find out your best friend & worst enemy are friends. Let's say this hurts & angers you.

Are you being unreasonably selfish?

I hate everything.

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nonbloggerholly on Feb 02 '11 at 3:14pm

this happened to me, i feel your pain dude

Steve The Great on Feb 02 '11 at 3:14pm

nonbloggerholly on Feb 02 '11 at 3:14pm

we are not being selfish that friend should have your back

linkhero on Feb 02 '11 at 3:14pm

if it's a dick, blow life

mezo on Feb 02 '11 at 3:15pm

Thank you, holly.
Sucks to know this sort of thing isn't uncommon, though.

Chipmnk on Feb 02 '11 at 3:17pm

I don't have friends.

I have an Omair.

B|

squintygirl on Feb 02 '11 at 3:17pm

I've had a really good friend be good friends with my sworn enemy. As long as my sworn enemy's existence was never mentioned, things were okay. But over time, my opinion of my good friend decreased for remaining friends with someone who was so obviously a dickhead wearing an asshat, until I stopped being her friend, too.

I regret nothing.

squintygirl on Feb 02 '11 at 3:21pm

Except the haircut I had during our friendship.

nikolina100 on Feb 02 '11 at 3:21pm

aw fudge.
I'd punch any of your said "friends" for you...seriously.
Love You So Much MEZOPANTSSTEPH!!!

ir0cko on Feb 02 '11 at 3:21pm

this sounds like the jersey shore. :(

Resistance on Feb 02 '11 at 3:24pm

Invert the situation for a second. By your same logic should not your best friend demand you be friends with your worst enemy? By what measure have you determined you are more important in the friendship?

mezo on Feb 02 '11 at 3:24pm

Yes, squints. That makes total sense! And sounds familiar.

The exact same ending can happen to me. I, too, asked the friend several times to never mention the enemy's name, because it stings. I'd hope she'd respect that, but instead she says she feels like she shouldn't have to "filter her stories" to me...

I'm gonna go punch my crotch in disgust.

d3d on Feb 02 '11 at 3:25pm

is there video of this fist fight? i assume you won because you're a scrappy hardass. fuck you friend for being a shit friend. hopefully they realise their other friend sucks.

mezo on Feb 02 '11 at 3:26pm

That's the problem, resistance, I feel like I should accept & write off my feelings as being selfish. But it does hurt. Furthermore, I would never betray a best friend by befriending someone who hurt her. NEVER. She'd come first.

mezo on Feb 02 '11 at 3:27pm

The fist fight was, also, with a boy. I won because he never hit back. He should have. Because then, I woulda straight up murdered his ass.

squintygirl on Feb 02 '11 at 3:30pm

It's one thing to be friends with someone who's friends with people you don't care for. It's a completely different story when your friend is friends with someone you despise for completely legit reasons that your friend is fully aware of. And it sucks when it becomes clear that it doesn't mean anything to your friend, which essentially means that YOU don't mean anything to your friend.

It comes to no good in the end, I had to let that ship sail.

After I shat in it. Oh, yes.

Resistance on Feb 02 '11 at 3:30pm

Well, I would say your friendship can be strengthened and made better by such a sacrifice. You are saying to your best friend, "You matter more to me than some bad feelings I've harbored against my enemy." I also think that could be quite liberating. Letting go of those feelings can be freeing and in turn make you feel better.

squintygirl on Feb 02 '11 at 3:33pm

You're a much better person than me, Resistance. :)

Manupix on Feb 02 '11 at 3:34pm

I don't understand having an enemy.
I understand not liking, fighting, hating, but if you categorize someone into an arch-fiend or stuff you get stuck with that.
Having a friend is more important!

Also, she feels like she shouldn't have to "filter her stories": I kind of agree. I have some friends who don't don't get along so well together, and I just hate it if they expect me to keep things from each other because of that.

Manupix on Feb 02 '11 at 3:37pm

Also, I'll remember not to engage in a fist fight with you.

mezo on Feb 02 '11 at 3:37pm

...I'm trying, resistance, but I wish the best friend thought I mattered more.

Chipmnk on Feb 02 '11 at 3:39pm

I've been in the situation where I was caught in the middle of two of my friends who didn't especially like each other. It's a tough situation.

V1ctorya on Feb 02 '11 at 3:39pm

I'm more with squintygirl, wisdom in those words. IT'd be all awkward for me (has been in the past). Then I've had said best friend and sworn enemy alliance against me.

It's not being selfish, at least not in the bad meaning of the way. You gotta protect your heart at times, and if they're assholes (SE) there's a reason.

mezo on Feb 02 '11 at 3:40pm

Friends are more important than enemies, manu. But enemies should be the only ones to have broken your heart.

Resistance on Feb 02 '11 at 3:41pm

I can see that side of it. It makes you feel less valued. But I think you can benefit from the "letting go" aspect. Here is a quote I've always remembered that helped me get over 2 different girlfriends cheating on me with 2 different best friends at 2 different times of my life...

"As if one could suffer more harm from any enemy than one suffers from the hatred which one feels against him; or as if one could do more harm to an enemy by any kind of persecution than one does to one's own soul by the mere act of hating."
-Augustine

It was hurting me more and affecting me in such a negative way that I had to let it go. It was so liberating. I hope this helps.

mezo on Feb 02 '11 at 3:41pm

Thank you, victoria.

This situation is shitty. I hate the world. I need 12 alvinhugs.

d3d on Feb 02 '11 at 3:43pm

how long has this chick been a friend? has she always been this selfish? maybe it's time to fuck her off and cut your losses. i only have one human friend because i eliminated all the dicks. it's nice. no dicks.

squintygirl on Feb 02 '11 at 3:47pm

it's nice. no dicks.

I should embroider that on a cushion, I like it.

mezo on Feb 02 '11 at 3:50pm

Resistance, you are a very strong person. And amzing the trials you've overcome. It's possible that one day I can let this go...but right now, it's fresh and hurts. I almost want to take a break from the best friend relationship, but she wouldn't understand. Plus, us living 3,000 miles apart makes everything worse. We can't talk face to face, we don't talk often...in fact, she talks to my enemy more.

Leon- we've been best friends for 11 years, my longest relationship. I feel like cutting her off would be heartless...

PISS.

mike bautista on Feb 02 '11 at 3:50pm

dickless

randyotter3000 on Feb 02 '11 at 3:51pm

you are being childish

mike bautista on Feb 02 '11 at 3:51pm

mezo on Feb 02 '11 at 3:53pm

Thanks for your insight, otter. *throws Lego at you*

Interesting how most of the dudes feel like forgivness and letting go is in order...but the ladies get me. The ladies and leon. I love leon.

squintygirl on Feb 02 '11 at 3:54pm

it's nice. no dicks.

mezo on Feb 02 '11 at 3:54pm

And how!

randyotter3000 on Feb 02 '11 at 3:57pm

but really I couldnt imagine sacking off a friend Ive had for 11 years because they like someone I dont like, that would make you a kinda shitty friend to begin with, is the person an ex or something?

nonbloggerholly on Feb 02 '11 at 3:59pm

it depends on how bad what this enemy has done to you

randyotter3000 on Feb 02 '11 at 4:03pm

Did they plunder your booty?

mezo on Feb 02 '11 at 4:05pm

This enemy isn't just someone I don't like. He hurt me. We were very close friends (he even married my husband & I). He destroyed our friendship (and a list of others) over a girl.

I can tell y'all the story of how the enemy came to be, if y'all care.

randyotter3000 on Feb 02 '11 at 4:07pm

I want to read the story and judge you

spacesick 2 on Feb 02 '11 at 4:08pm

awwww mezo. I wanna hug your hurt feelings and kiss your anger right on the mouth, it's so badass.

Chipmnk on Feb 02 '11 at 4:10pm

I will give you all the Alvinhugs I can offer.

mike bautista on Feb 02 '11 at 4:11pm

I care.

Kerrn on Feb 02 '11 at 4:17pm

there's a little more wiggle room in that it's long distance but it's still a dick move on her part....especially if she's unapologetic/unwilling to compromise when you're willing to compromise

questions:
-since you and enemy used to be friends, were BFF and enemy friends before you guys became enemies? like there was a pre-existing friendship?
-need me to do some ass kicking?
-can i get you some pbr?

-k.

Kerrn on Feb 02 '11 at 4:18pm

also...why would someone pick some douche over stef as their bff??
maybe he punched her in the head and hurt her brain.

-k.

marblecargirl on Feb 02 '11 at 4:18pm

I will go Lisa "Left-Eye" Lopes (RIP) and set fire to your enemy's house.

mezo on Feb 02 '11 at 4:24pm

Kerrn, no, BFF was not friends with enemy until I introduced them years ago. Please bring PBRs and hugs.

RIP CHUGHUG AUBS

mezo on Feb 02 '11 at 4:25pm

SPACE I LOVE YOU HARD

Kerrn on Feb 02 '11 at 4:27pm

youre not worried theyre going to bone and possibly create the antichrist are you?...

-k.

trindli on Feb 02 '11 at 4:29pm

does bff know the whole story why your enemy hurt you? did you talk about it? what is her opinion about it? or is it not spoken about?

also, does your bff have lots of other friends or is your enemy one of the few ones so she might be scarred to be left alone, since you live far away? did she mention why she is friends with him and why she can just overlook things he did?

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BASICALLY, you're a dirty crotchpheasant and you should randomly contract a straing of AIDS, basically.

melo on Aug 23 '06
what the fuck?
your mother should kill you and start over.

tinsol, at 9:03am on May 24, 2006
Not sure what the hype is do alot of people like phonographs are is your whole highschool voting. Remember those little pencil sharpeners? I guess if you just add a few weird items slap on a page and people like that? would anyone wear it really?

hehehe, at 9:39pm on May 3, 2006
This reminds me of something that really, really sucks. The whole thing looks so awkward, this is just dumb.

Kimatay, at 12:09am on Apr 29, 2006
eww hes ugly
i would not what to wear someone that ugly on my shirt

second2none, at 1:29pm on Mar 30, 2006
a lot less... everything you've done here and it will be half decent. 1$

GLASSMATCHES, at 10:20pm on Dec 14, 2005
seriously...what were you thinking?
i should blow up your face.

merkthose, at 12:20pm on Nov 27, 2005
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williamthacker7, at 5:50am on Apr 27, 2005
you twat this is a pile of shit any one can use stamp tool and stop trying to dress it up by putting on a whack stylized person

AngerIncarnate, at 9:31pm on Mar 21, 2005
this looks like an open invitation to hepatitis.

taddot, at 8:49pm on Jan 11, 2005
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MikkelM, at 8:21am on Jan 7, 2005
hehe Pretty "cute" ... and gay!

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