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TimAssassin
TimAssassin aka Tim is a 23.08 year old boy, has been a member since January 24, 2007, has scored 1,206 submissions, giving an average score of 2.00, helping 14 designs get printed.
I took this from my myspace blog i posted. I thought i would spread my wisdom to the threadless community... or to basically anyone who cares. here it is:

So i came accross one of these sweet bulletins that was saying this that would make a girl feel special. Then i came to #13. I couldn't believe what it said. So i decided to redo the bulletin, adding in my own two cents. My part is in ( ).

13. Love her with all your heart.
[Not with your brain... or your dick]
(THIS COULDN'T BE MORE WRONG!!!!
A guy who loves with his heart should be dumped and kicked to the curb. Hear me out. Picture the heart... red, beating, there to keep you alive, very powerfull, did i mention keeps you alive? Now look closer, do you see any brain cells? I think not. Now, the heart can in some cases be a great thing to love with, but in most cases (99% of the time) the heart leads to trouble (break-up, heart-ache, the whole shabang). The reason I say this is that the heart does not think. The heart is emotional, causing you to be emotional. emotional thinking isn't smart thinking. The heart chooses what it wants, often the hot chick or cute guy that you supposedly love. The heart jumps to conclusions, and makes decisions based on temporary feelings. Heres where the brain comes in. Now picture the brain, mushy, lumpy, mysterious in how the dang thing even works, and in most cases(excluding the granite brains out there) smart. Smart -meaning, in this case, able to think about actions and what could happen. The brain is able to analize things to see them for what the really are. The brain makes great decisions, a great contrast from the loose-cannon we call a heart. Although love comes from the heart, the brain controls the heart. see where im going with this? The brain is what you must make yourself love with. Seeing as how the brain controls the heart, I think the brain could get a good discount on love in bulk, maybe even on sale, but who could really put a price on true love? Anyways, make yourself love with your mind. Think about things. Think, is that guy or girl really what I need to be with. Is that granite brain of his really gonna be helpful when his high school football career is over and he sinks to the bottom of the class when all the colleges dont accept him? Or is that hore you call a girlfriend really gonna look nice to the parents, or impressive to the kids in 10 years when "mommy and daddy dont live together anymore"? Whats my whole point to this rant? I'm hoping that the mentoring I had, mentoring im trying to pass onto you, will in some way affect your life, possibly changing it and giving you a better future. If you want to talk more about it please feel free, heck I encourage you, to message me, if you really want to talk I'll give you my screen name. I have AIM and MSN. so please, listen to what I have to say and take it to heart. And if your one of those people that think, what the heck does a teenager know, hes only 17. Well I learned all this from THE best teacher to ever walk the face of this earth, Mr. Bruce Gevirtzman. So don't think I'm making it up, cause I'm not inexperienced. I've been in enough relationships to know what im talking about. And if you're still reading, thank you. You will most likely get the most out of this.

PS- To the maybe 2 gilrs that I've told it wouldn't work out, if you're even reading this, now I hope you know why I told you it wouldn't work out. Because I finally learned I had to love with my mind and not my heart. I just didn't see us working out. Now isn't that better than going through the whole nasty break-up and all.)

ianrose
ianrose on Jan 31 '07 at 11:54pm
easier said than done brother, but if love is done completely with the mind and not at all with the heart (figurative heart, not literal muscle that pushes blood and has nothing to do with love, any more than the liver does), its not really love. It's interest. Or maybe intellectual stimulation. If you're reasonable, at least in my experience, you're not in love.
Stevethegreat
Stevethegreat on Jan 31 '07 at 11:56pm
rationality is only part of life.
snittleface
snittleface on Feb 01 '07 at 12:00am
have you ever been in love?
ianrose
ianrose on Feb 01 '07 at 12:09am
Actually, thinking back on it, I felt like this quite often when I was your age - until I fell rediculously and irrationally in love with someone. It would be nice to be able to be rational and in love at the same time - its an enviable thought - at least for me, it just doesnt work that way.
TimAssassin
TimAssassin on Feb 01 '07 at 10:51am
i can say i have been in what i like to call "fake teenager love"...twice actually. the reason i havent fallen completely in love is because i take my relationships very seriously. any girls that ive considered a relationship with either didnt want to be in a serious relationship, or i realized soon that they just werent right for me. I have found someone tho. She's the girl in main photo. Ive been best friends with her since freshman year. We just recently talked and now were taking it slow. I've thought about this for countless hours thinking about whether she would be right for me and i for her. We'll i think you can guess my conclusion see that we're still together. This isnt just infatuation or lust. I think this could develop into a loving serious relationship. not just fake teenager love.
Jewstice
Jewstice on Feb 01 '07 at 11:24am
I have a myspace blog where I am wearing women's make-up. I don't have anything thoughtful such as this.
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Shadow_9
Shadow_9 on Jun 19 '09 at 1:23am
I came across your blog and what you wrote is just wow I hope your still up for talking with people about this if you are please contact me at shadow9voices@yahoo.com thank you
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noellington
noellington on Feb 11 '11 at 4:05am
It's funny the person who created this thread was 17 when he wrote this.. I'm 25 and I think like this now... well to be honest I've always thought this way or @ least for as long as I can remember.. But nonetheless to address some of the replies.... to say that "love" should be based solely on how we take it mentally versus how we "feel" about it in our "hearts" is not the point this young man was trying to make.. any genuine interest that we would have for anyone doesn't come from the mind at all.. its not a math equation 2 + 2 = attraction... it is a feeling you get.... and the brain doesn't feel it calculates and thinks and analyzes... so initially it all starts with the heart, but to further expand on the point he was making.. we can't control our feelings BUT we can definitely control our actions.... there's no way to program ourselves to be attracted to or have feelings for people who (logically) make better partners it's all emotional and feelings.. BUT where the love em with your mind aspect comes into play is ONCE you realize you have feelings for whoever and what to do from that point... I'm not a fan of setting myself up for failure.. i dont think most people are.... and sometimes you don't have to see the movie to know how the movie is going to end.... what im saying is if there was a person of interest you had strong feelings for... and you ultimately know whats to come out of the situation if it were to get serious why even bother? why jump in the pool if you know you're going to drown? you see the teeth before you feel the bite... If you can see something bad coming from a mile away why still walk down that path? Because you're in "love"???????????? Not saying all situations where you "love" someone has potential to be bad, but don't be so caught up in the "love" you're making yourself oblivious to the obvious..... There a difference between taking a chance and just being stupid
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TimAssassin
TimAssassin on May 28 '12 at 1:38am
Wow. So I'm 23 now. Been through a lot and just discovered my old account. Lots of memories of high school in this old thing.

noellington, you got it right on. Thanks bud.
TimAssassin
TimAssassin on May 28 '12 at 1:40am
One more update:
NOW, I have been in true love. Almost married the girl. We were engaged for 2 years. But I lived by my advice in this blog, something I learned when I was 17, and broke up with her after realizing she wasn't right for me. Now a year later after the break up and I'm not regretting that decision.
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