Update:

My bf emailed his buddy and I am now officially on the guest list. Hells yes! Thanks again to everyone who offered sage advice :)

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So I'm in a sticky situation that I'm kind of at a loss to resolve. I figured I'd see if anyody here could help me out of this quagmire.

One of my boyfriend's close friends is getting married (on the other side of the country, if that matters.) The bf and I have been living together for a couple months and have been serious for over a year and a half. We don't really travel separately. We don't spend a lot of time apart.

You can guess where this is going, right? I wasn't invited to the wedding, either by name or as an "and guest." Now, from what I can tell, this was a breach of etiquette on their part — if a couple is living together, engaged, or married, you pretty much invite them as a pair or not at all. Also, Emily Post says that, if the hosts find out about my existence, they have to extend an invitation to me. On the other hand, it's totally tacky for me to bring this to their attention. Sadly Emily Post is dead so I can't ask her in person what I'm supposed to do then.

Thoughts? Solutions?