In need of advice (a.k.a Phil is useless with women UPDATE REALLY USELESS WITH WOMEN)
So basically I fucked up.
I went to work on my day off and asked the girl out (from here on out refered to as girl 1).
She rejected me.
It wasnt bad or anything, she was super nice about it, she had a boyfriend.
I know I should be proud of myself for doing it but the truth is I fucked up.
The chatting thing I mentioned carried on for a few more weeks to the point where we kind of had in jokes like long distance fist pumps.
Then out of nowhere it turned out a girl (girl 2) I worked with liked me (which happened just before Christmas), the short version is I we slept in bed together but nothing else happened. I was sober at the time and she was super drunk, after a while I got out of bed and slept on the sofa.
She was pretty embarrassed about it and basically avoided me for several weeks then Christmas happened.
We tried hanging out at lunch or walking to the station together but we could barely hold a conversation, we basically had nothing in common.
Mean while I was still talking to girl 1 but because I'm an idiot/find it difficult to show my emotions she had no idea I was crushing on her.
I feel like I gave up on girl 1 partly because she's way more attractive than me (which I know is stupid, its her choice who she's attracted to not me) but I also put a bet on what I felt was a sure thing.
Which sounds horrible because girl 2 is really nice its just she loves drinking, where as I'm not big on it and shes big time into culture and art house stuff where as I'm a sucker for big Hollywood movies, I'm a comedy nerd, love cartoons and video games.
I'm not saying girl 1 would have said yes, hell even if she did we might have gone on a few dates and it might have burned out but I feel like I missed my chance.
Thats down to my fear of failure and my body issues (over weight and balding), I tried to take what I thought was the easy option with girl 2 and it just blew up in my face.
Sorry guys I know we dont normally do this type of blog but quite frankly I'm more than a little clueless and I dont have anyone else to turn to.
Met a girl at work through her sister, we keep chatting but we only ever get a few minutes together before we have to leave and were only seeing each other once or twice a week at the most but sometimes its weeks.
I think she might like me too and I know for a fact shes single but I have no idea how to follow up and make a move.
I moved to London a year ago and got a job in a large department store, I work in one department and she works in the one next to me.
I work with her sister and we met through her.
We keep running into each other, at lunch or walking through her department (her department is the main route through the store, so I have to go through to get to a lot of the tasks that cant be done in my shop) though I admit if there's ever a chance to walk through I volunteer.
The problem is we only ever get the chance to speak to each other for a few minutes before we have to go back to work, worse still the way the rota has been falling, I have the weekends off where as she works them so until last weekend it had been a better part of a month since I'd last seen her.
I have hung out with her properly once, I went to a fast food place and just as I was finishing her and her friends turned up and invited me to hang out with them whilst they eat.
She seems to likes me as a friend, we get on shes smart, funny (and beautiful) and we seem to have a similar sense of humor but I kind of get the feeling that there's more to it than that and this is coming from a guy who doesn't read signals well.
Like a couple of days ago (hadn't seen her in about 3 weeks) I came into the department to put get money out of the cash machine and she happened to be putting out stock next to it.
I came over and said hi and then she started explaining how she'd just been thinking about me and then I turned up out of nowhere.
Unfortunately a manager turned up to make us get back to work so I had to escape quickly before she got in trouble.
A week or so before that I was walking through the canteen when I saw her talking to a guy so I came over and said hi, we were all moaning about how we'd turned up to work and then the management had told us we'd be staying there an hour late. You know just the usual watercooler chat, eventually the guy had to leave.
Now I didnt think anything of it, I mean I like her but its not like were dating and even then she's allowed to have friends but she made the effort to point out that she didnt know the guy, they'd just met today and had started talking. Again I had to leave because I wasn't on break.
I like her and I think she might like me but right now were seeing each other for a few minutes maybe once a week and I dont really know what the next step is, I don't have her phone number or facebook.
I have a friend who's in a who's in an off West End that's received good reviews and I don't have anyone to go with but I'm worried that jumping a head to quickly.
One of my colleagues suggested I go to another colleagues leaving do and ask the girl I work with to invite her sister but that could be a long time off and again because of the rota I never actually see the sister (she works 1 day a week and its usually the day I'm off).
I know I need to make the next move because if I don't do something things will fizzle out. I'm also considering moving to a different department (less hours more pay) that means I will have no contact with her so I need to do something soon. so any advice would be greatly appricated.